Category Archives: Dreaming Big

Who’s to say we can’t change the world?

Your happiness will change the world

Do you remember the time you thought you could change the world?

What happened to that time?  What happened to that brave, adventurous self that challenged the status quo, chased after their personal dream with vigour and passion, that didn’t care what other people thought?

This person, who climbed the ladder with determination and finesse, finally made it to the top, but found she had left her dreams somewhere behind, dismissed them as fancy, or impossible, even while she thought she was working towards the time she could make them come true. Continue reading

Not less, but different – Comparisons stop here

I have one of those significant birthdays coming up this year… the kind that makes you stop and take stock of where you are and how far you’ve come… or not.

I’ve been determined not to be bothered by this birthday; I tell myself it’s just a number.  To be honest with you I mostly just can’t believe that number even applies to me.  How can I be Forty (almost) when I still feel like a lost, naïve child inside?

(And what the heck am I doing sharing that thought when I should be out declaring my expertise and confidence and can do-ness to the world?   Nevertheless, I’m going to risk losing face and share my vulnerable moment for the sake of the story.)

Actually, my thoughts have done some pretty extensive wandering over the last few days until I remembered:

 I have a lifetime’s experience in comparing myself to other people (it’s a built-in self destruct mechanism that kicks in if I ever start to think I might actually be getting good at something.)  And I’m doing it again.
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Make a difference by changing what you see

You want more money, but you want the way you earn it to have meaning and purpose.  You want to make a difference. You want to believe that you – little old you, with all your fears and insecurities – can help to change the world.

But when you look at the Great Big Problems around you it’s hard to believe it’s possible to stop the momentum of something so huge.  You imagine trying to coordinate hundreds of thousands – millions – of people, get an agreed consensus on what must be done.  You think you couldn’t possibly get heard.

In the face of the big picture, you feel very, very small.

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Finding the feeling of ‘enough’

A naughty thought is rising up in my mind.

 One that condemns no one but questions the validity of fighting against a broken system. 

 Walking home after a long and rewarding conversation with a girlfriend, a gentle thought stepped in:

  If you don’t FEEL you have enough, then you don’t. 

 It makes no difference how much you have, if you are still telling yourself a story of lack.  When we’re fighting against the unfairness in the world we’re highlighting what we’re missing in our own lives, we’re saying we’re victims of a system that is biased towards those who already have too much. We’re saying we have less.

 We’re saying we don’t have enough and it’s someone else’s responsibility to give us more.  And by doing so, we are reinforcing the idea that there’s not enough to go around.

 But the thing that was suddenly so profound in this thought, is that those who have so much more money than we have are still grabbing and grasping for more.  They’re acting as if the money could run out at any moment.  Could it be they’re accumulating enough of a financial crash-mat to stop them feeling any pain if they were to fall?  

 Are some people protecting themselves from life with money?

 A naughty thought, as I said. 

 The problem is, money doesn’t actually stop pain.  ‘It’s alright for them’ suggests only our unwillingness to see other ways that a person might suffer, other than financially. 

How can we restart the flow? 

It’s true that if the money flowed more easily it might find its way to those in need.  But maybe we have no right to force others to give up what they have, no matter how much it seems to be in our eyes. 

Maybe what we can do is find ways to help them FEEL they have enough to be able to stop accumulating and restart the flow.

 Maybe the 99% has to give first.

Comments – What else needs to flow, what can be shared so that we can ALL remember how it feels to have enough?  (I don’t know the answer here but I’d love there to be one)