Category Archives: Self-care

Victim no more – a new way of looking at things

So this week I’ve been at work.  (If you don’t know about this you haven’t read my newsletter.  Have a look now.  Oh, and do sign up if it pleases you.) I think I got out of bed on the wrong side on Monday morning and was absolutely thoroughly miserable by Tuesday night.

I was hating being at work.  I was feeling left out (I’m still learning the language), frustrated, stressed and put-upon.  I was stewing over not being paid as much as I’d like and the fact that the job isn’t exactly what I applied for (are they ever?).  And paranoid – seriously paranoid – convinced every conversation that was being held around me, must be about me.  Most of all, I was feeling left out and lonely and sorry for myself. Continue reading

The myth of work/life balance; why self-care IS service.

I have an awful lot on my plate this week, and I’ve been getting a little lost in all the different demands on my time and attention.  I still get lost in a maze of self-recrimination when I can’t fulfil every obligation that comes my way.

With a lifetime of people-pleasing habits buried deep in my psyche, I still sometimes find myself trying to respond immediately, instantly to someone’s request to help out.  I forget quickly and easily my own need to connect with others, have fun, rest and recharge.  I lose touch with my own inner compass and just step into reactive problem solving.

I don’t think I’m alone here.

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