There’s a strange, gentle sadness left in the space when the worry has gone.
The sadness is like a space, the calm after the storm, the peace after a really good cry. It’s like you’ve been carrying something and suddenly you let it go and you’re left with the memory of its weight and your arms are still formed into its shape. Despite the relief, you still hold that space and, for a short while, while you adjust, it is missed.
This is a time of possibility, the chance to choose a new shape, rediscover the freedom of your arms, adjust your body, find a new balance. It’s a wobbly moment: something doesn’t feel right, something that almost seemed normal is no longer there. Even after you have let go of the thing, you need a moment to let go of its memory.
No matter, time is what you have.
The worry was urgent, demanding, pressing. The worry needed action without giving you time to reflect. The worry said there is only one answer, and you have to find it NOW.
But your worry sits in the place of your answer. It blocks your way, occupies your mind and distracts you from your Self, which is where the answer lies.
The answer is inside you – the endless possibilities that you can adopt now you’ve put the burden aside. The answer is how you want to be – now; it’s how you want to feel – in this moment, in the next and the next. It’s potential, it’s possibility, it’s YOU.
Your ‘Why’ isn’t a job, a calling, a purpose. There isn’t a right answer, a wrong answer, there is only the answer that gives you the space you need to be.
Don’t fight the sadness, let it be. This is part of the process.
Doesn’t it feel so much better than the fear?
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I have recently had an interesting journey of a loss of worry about my old career to move towards my authentic self, but then to replace with a new worry that I require answers asap to be my authentic self.
I have lost my internal compass the last two months trying to do do what I should in order to make an income asap. Yes, that old bean!!! It sneaked into my mind again and screwed up my navigation system. I was unaware that I was simply reinventing a physiotherapist role which was the career that was not for me.
I realised quite recently that my yearning is still there to be a Changemaker and to make the world a better place in some way.
I have had difficulty defining that role until I read ‘Business Model You’ which laid bare my true passions and abilities.
Happily, I am back on course now and feel passion again with an idea of how I can be a Changemaker
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I have concluded that I just need to keep my mind open to whatever comes my way, but not to get caught up in detail that starts to diminish my passions. However, I go easy on myself as many successful people fail frequently (find what does not work), until they eventually find that ‘Sweet Spot’…..:))